Let’s look at why some people enjoy judging and putting down or belittling other people in today’s SOUL TONIC.
Our dear friends, Hima Bindu, Sandra C. Duru, Yashwanth Manivanna, Anita Duru, Alvarez Scott and Saraswathi Chandrasekaran have been able to put together today’s SOUL TONIC to inspire and motivate us to understand why some people like to put others down and belittle them and how to get rid of them or pay no attention to these set of toxic people who I call “TOXIC TRASH”.
We Judge others from our own fears and past experiences. We Judge others by their behaviour, actions, body language. We Judge others -to feed our ego. We judge others because of lack of information and fill the gaps and assume that we are right.
Our past experiences make us judge others. A boyfriend cheated on you and then you assume every other guy is bad and a cheater. We judge others depending on their appearance, colour etc. If a black person stole from you and now every time you see a black person you hold your purse tightly and look suspiciously at them. You judge them to be a thief.
Sometimes we judge others because we see ourselves in them. If you are a person who lies and you wouldn’t believe anyone else because you see yourself in others. You judge them incorrectly. Stereotyping affects people’s judgement: anybody who has certain stereotypes defined in his brain might judge someone incorrectly based on his looks, creed, religion race, gender…etc
Judging others comes from a place of insecurity.
We judge others in comparison with our own beliefs and preferences, but instead of judging -we can respect their choices. Belittling/ putting down/ demeaning/ making others feel insignificant – is all about sense of control.
Bullies belittle by insulting, name calling, hating, criticising, enving, disrespecting and making fun of others. Bullies are insecure and their self hatred makes them want to assume some sort of dominance and control, and the only time they feel worthy is when they belittle others.
They tear down other people’s confidence by demeaning them for their own self esteem.
Some demean others to gain attention. Some belittle others to make themselves feel good.
Some people don’t know how to communicate.
some people are jealous and demean others.
Some have this burning desire to feel superior because of their insecurities and they would try anything to one-up you and can never enjoy other people’s success.
Remember the person’s words are a reflection of them, not of you. Also remember that Self interest is a big theme in the world today- and someone upsets you by demeaning you— they are not intentionally trying to offend you but because they are busy thinking about themselves and their gain.
Judging, putting down and belittling other people comes from a place of huge insecurity and deep unhappiness within self. If you can not be happy for others, encourage others, lift others up — You can never do all these things to yourself. You will fall into a viscous cycle. You will be trapped in the prison you have built yourself. Break the cycle. Be liberated. Learn to be accepting. Be kind ♥️ and show some love.
Every living being, that can form a community, have this in common. Wolf packs too. Like my late father would always say that we all have love within ourselves but we choose not to share but want to show who is bigger, stronger and richer.
Some people, really want to be on the top, they believe that they are powerful enough to lead, they always want to take the top most position in this ladder. They probably are; these people are usually liked, popular and have a charismatic personality everyone is naturally inclined to follow and like this kind of person. Some, even if they are not all that powerful and dominant, have come up with an excuse for why they should be on the top.
This is nothing but a motive to re-assert their social status, often born out of jealousy and greed, also has other roots. These people, they are willing to do anything to make themselves appear better than yourself, they usually make the smallest of your mistakes a huge event.
Some times I wonder why are some people jerks? Like what do they get from putting others down and being hateful, envious, jealous, bitter and judgemental creatures?
It will surprise you to know that these set of people are too emotionally immature to deal with their own shortcomings, so they put it onto everyone else around them to make themselves feel better (read psychological defense mechanism: displacement and projection).
You should pity those people who try to pull you down or hate you and remember that if you’re at the receiving end, it’s a compliment. Those who try to bring you down are basically admitting to the fact that they are already below you. I call them “toxic trash”. You don’t have to waste a second on them. Trash them, they’re toxic and not useful to you and your beautiful life.
Judging others- how they act, what they say, how they say it, what they wear, what they eat, how they eat, how educated or uneducated they are, what they wear- is a universal habit designed to feed the ego of these toxic people who by all means want to put others down and belittle them.
They derive happiness from making others appear small for them to feel big. Judging is an unimaginative way to make themselves feel like they belong and have control over everything and everyone else.
The act of judging comes from insecurity and is a symptom of unhappiness and bitterness. If you are truly happy, you don’t need to cut others down to size or put down the choices others have made.
Let me share this with you, there’s this miserable lady, Edith from Nigeria, West Africa who resides in Massachusetts, United States Of America and has been on me and my kids for over five years plus now, doing everything within her little and unrecognized powers to bring us down, to ruin my reputation by talking down on me, reporting me and my precious kids to the authorities.
This miserable and frustrated woman with so much baggage of family problems and health issues has done everything to put us down, she is so bitter and hateful, so judgemental, and very emotionally immature. She has done everything evil to bring my beautiful family down, yet we are doing well and living our best lives. This is the type of person we call ‘toxic trash’. You don’t waste any time on them, just leave them to sink in their own toxicity and get choked in there, while you keep making progress in your life and achieving greatness.
Yes, such people exist. Be careful when you encounter these people in the journey of life. They try to prove others are wrong, even if its the mundane thing. Pay no single attention to their distractions and frustrations. They’re confused people and unhappy creatures. You are not their problem.
They always try to assert their false status. Showing off their miserable lives and portraying themselves as ‘happy’ people whereas they are very unhappy, miserable and unsettled.
Teasing, calling names and ill treatment comes along with it. They find it very easy to criticize the good work of others because they don’t have the good qualities and strength those people have. They’ve this feeling that they are the only ones who deserve every good things of life. A typical example of this is; when I launched my world class brand- MGBEKE LLC in the United States Of America, this same Edith criticized, mocked and ran down the name, but today she is ENVIOUS of our very successful black woman owned family business. Don’t ever you get distracted by their unexplainable hatred, unhappiness, jealousy and bitterness. Keep moving forward and impacting lives positively.
Soon, they’ll have this feeling of entitlement to their pseudo-position. As if they deserved it all this while, and the mind sees what it wants, everything to them seems to be the way they want it to be. Even if that is really not the thing. There’re different types of “toxic-trashy” people who do everything to bring others down and belittle them for no just cause.
The other type is born out of Insecurities.These kind, they are aware of their own shortcomings, flaws and have simply accepted them as perfect. When they see another person, feeling better, and comfortable in their skin, its a reflex to tear them down and make them feel miserable too. They find it easier to criticize and put someone down, rather than improve themselves to grow beyond themselves. They are stuck and afraid to change, and can’t accept it if another person tries to do well and change. Like everything else, this too becomes a reflex and a habit.
I strongly believe that the people who enjoy enving, judging, bullying people, putting others down and belittling others suffer from a crucial lack of self-confidence, self-love, and self-esteem. They tend to be their worst enemies and critics. And maybe simply judging others would somehow blunt the trauma they inflict upon themselves by constantly pitting themselves against other people.
These people find it extremely difficult to not play divide and rule, defense and offence against the world because they believe the world is out to get them or the world is against them; whereas they are the only victims of their life story, not the hero or heroine. They are their own true enemies and tormentors.
Pay no attention to these people and never be distracted by their actions.
When you don’t bring others down to be the number one, when you wait patiently on God Almighty; With faith, patience and hard work, you will become successful in life and your blessings will be permanent.
Don’t kill to be famous or rich. Don’t destroy others to climb higher than them. If you are destined for greatness and you know who you are and who your father is, you will follow your path, be successful with a pure heart to the end.
Remember to identify great opportunities and make good use of them silently and smartly. Be Valuable and not Available always. Don’t show off your wealth or riches, but be grateful to God the giver of everything you have.
You don’t have to prove anything to anyone, but plan your life well, live it well, create a sustainable generational wealth through excellent, smart and brilliant investments.
Nobody has the ability to bring you down or destroy you if you don’t give them the chance to do so. People will try to get you down by all means, but you have the choice to either go down, stay down or stand up and keep moving.
Convert your pains, mockery, rejection and humiliation into GREATNESS. You are a great person. Don’t ever think of giving up or even pay attention to detractors, toxic trashy things around you. Preserve your mind and let nobody mess with your mind, your mind is your engine house; your powerhouse.