The society today has created a stereotype towards women with fertility issues.
Barrenness is a concept that requires change. In Africa, women with fertility issues are seen as barren, yet a good number of men equally have fertility issues but conceal it, and in most cases women are at the receiving end and are always blamed for a couple’s inability to have children.
This is a message to women going through issues regarding child bearing, ensure you and your husband get tested to know where the problem lies, then look for solution.
There is a saying that ‘We rise by lifting others’, your inability to have children isn’t barrenness. Barrenness is your inability to turn around your situation, your inability to recreate your story. Don’t let the society judge you, don’t let the society send you into depression. Make good use of your lifetime, adopt babies, make them yours, give them the best education, they are yours, they will make you smile and give you joy, whether biological, adopted, foster or even through surrogate.
Embrace Technology, go for IVF, surrogacy and other options to aid childbearing. If it fails, adopt children. If you are financially capable help poor and suffering kids. A barren woman is a woman who has not helped humanity. There are lot of children around you suffering daily, assist them, when you do, they see you as their mother.
When you help poor children, the same society that wants to stereotype you will praise you and use words such as ‘our mother’, ‘the mother of our community ‘. Infact you will live a happy and fulfilled life.
Don’t give up on life, you are not barren even if you have no child, you are only barren when you have no child to take care of. Live for humanity because someday we will die and leave those children, either adopted or biological, only an impactful woman will be celebrated, honored, and remembered in death.