My dear sister Tonto Dikeh, you don’t need sympathy, you need strength and wisdom.
You don’t need to beg any man to take care of your precious gift from God, your lovely son. You have been doing it and you are doing it excellently well. You will be alive to enjoy your son in good health and happiness.
You carried him in your womb successfully and without any miscarriage and you gave birth to him. You have been singlehandely raising him without any support from anyone. You are a strong woman. May God Almighty refill your strength and give you the wisdom to continue to be a good and strong mother to your son.
Nnem, you are beautifully made by God and you’re blessed. Every woman wants a beautiful home, but you mustn’t be married to build one. If marriage isn’t working out fine doesn’t make you a bad person. Remember, there’re men and there’re boys. No real man will treat you like your last two ex-husbands.
On your side, stop trusting too much, clean up your inner circle, and shut your doors. Focus on your happiness, joy, peace of mind, your mental health, businesses, career, your spiritual life and your son. Give yourself a space of atleast seven years to completely heal before you can try again and this time, you need to be very careful, prayerful and private.
My dear, there’s nothing wrong with you and you are not in competition with anyone. Don’t let the pressure from the world push you into the wrong hands. Don’t forget that some evil families, ex, inlaws, fake friends, can be very diabolical and wicked. I have encountered so many of them, but God Almighty liberated me.
If you don’t take care of the problem from the root, the next man will do more damage than these last two. You are in my prayers and I strongly believe that you will be fine.
Dr. Sandra C Duru