If you truly support them, please understand that you are not helping them by fueling this fight online. You are not defending them. You are damaging the only remaining window for peace and reconciliation. Whether that reconciliation happens now, later, or never, their beautiful children must always be respected. Those children are blessings from their union and deserve peace, not chaos.
If you love Regina, respect Ned.
If you love Ned, respect Regina.
This is not the time for insults, sides, or blame. The right thing to do now is to encourage calm, speak privately to the parties involved, and support healing, not hostility.
To our mothers watching, I plead with you.
Please speak to Regina’s mother. This is the moment to act like a wife, a mother, a caring grandmother, and a mother in-law with real wisdom and maturity. The only true victim in this public drama is Regina’s father, who is being humiliated as if he has never been a present or honorable man. No woman should fail at being a good wife and still extend that failure into motherhood, motherh in-law, and now grandmother roles. Enough is enough.
As for Sammy, I will keep my words minimal. But if I were his mother or older sister, I would simply ask Ned to step aside and allow me to take care of that youthful arrogance and misguided confidence with a little bit of sweet – bitter- lovely corrective measures. Trust me.
Everyone must calm down. Please, STOP!!!
Ned Nwoko is a gentleman. Regina is still a young woman who deserves our unconditional love, support, and protection. Both of them are hurting. Both are overwhelmed. Both are emotionally unprepared for the street-drama, embarrassment and noise surrounding their private challenges now turned into a reality show by social media users.
So as for me, I will not take anything said or done by either Ned or Regina to heart right now. I know pain when I see it, and pain speaks loudly. Sometimes it speaks too loudly.
Let us allow them space.
Let us allow them dignity.
Let us allow healing to take its natural course.
Love them both enough to protect their peace, not destroy their future. 
Prof. Sandra C Duru
