“Osinachi Nwachukwu Was Very Isolated From Loved Ones. Her Death Could Have Been Avoided.” – Pastor Enenche’s Daughter Reveals
In a rather lengthy and quite emotional statement, Barrister Deborah Paul-Enenche, recently revealed that the late gospel singer Osinachi Nwachukwu’s death was an avoidable calamity if only she had not been very isolated from her loved ones, and also refused to open up about her physical abuse to her “spiritual father.”
The daughter of famous Nigerian clergyman, Pastor Paul Eneche of Dunamis International Gospel Center, Abuja, Nigeria, released this statement on April 11, 2022, and it has several points that resonate a lot with all we have been teaching here at Mgbeke Media even before the sad demise of the late Osinachi.
Barrister Deborah said:
“I have been unable to sleep the past few days due to my fury at the untimely and avoidable exit of a generational voice. She inspired me to chase after God. I can’t express how much shock I experienced on hearing. What’s worse is that I didn’t know the actual background facts of her life as I don’t indulge in gossip or poke into other people’s lives. That being said, I truly wish I had known her better. I wish I could have done more for her. I wish I had been aware of all the pain she experienced. I will do what I am able to now I know the facts.
It’s also come to my attention that many who knew her personally were not entirely privy to her situation. It’s even more disheartening to know, from an account of her twin sister, that she wouldn’t let her spiritual father be made aware of the gravity of the abuse she suffered. This, therefore, informs how I address things.
There is so much to be said yet so much discretion is needed. I am, however, not one who knows how to stay mute on issues that potentially affect me and those around me. I also have a fiscal responsibility to the young people who look up to me as well as my role in both the body of Christ and society,
That being said, in order to not be misconstrued, I will keep my opinions brief:
1. The deceased was very isolated from loved ones. Much of what happened in the end could have been avoided if she hadn’t been marooned from the ones who cared for her most. I believe she not only passed due to the compendium of physical hurt and pain; she died of a broken heart. I will personally do my best to ensure that the offending party in the equation is punished to the fullest extent of the law. He will not go scot-free. There will be many measures taken to also protect the children and her family as well.
2. Many are quick to jump to conclusions on things they know nothing about. The collective approximate shock we feel is not compared to that of the pain of people who have been so heavily involved both physically, financially, spiritually and even legally in trying to extricate someone from a truly nightmarish situation that could only really be absolved by the parties involved. My father has always been an advocate for removing oneself from a deeply unhealthy marriage. It is spread across the fabric of his ministry the clear fact that he has always ensured the weak are protected. It is not different in this situation. Everything was done to ensure the departed was removed from her situation and in lieu of that, she was cared for as much as possible. Bear in mind that there was no knowledge of the physical abuse. If such had come to light, we wouldn’t be here.
3. We as the body of Christ fail each other and our Abba when we fixate on tearing each other down instead of being a help and support to one another and an example for the world. Situations like this can arise when one is too afraid to be an outcast and consequently stay put to save face. When drastic and unfortunate results arise however, we are the same ones to blame the victim for being indecisive or slow to act. The woman was a paragon of strength.
4. Please don’t be a bystander. Actively defend the helpless. Toxic relationships are difficult to come out of on one’s one. Our legal system may have failed us but community doesn’t. We are our own support. In real life, when many come across domestic violence, we are quick to speak about how it doesn’t concern us, blame the victim or try reconciliation. These are not only destructive remedies but may be some of the reasons people going through such never speak up.
5. This being said, there is only so much that can be done for one. Much was apparently done but little could be achieved without innate action. Please seek out help if you need to. Don’t let the enemy win. Please and please speak up! All the things coming to light now were perfectly avoidable if it had been shared.
6. Anyone currently in need of support, please do not be afraid to reach out. Here are some numbers you can contact if you’re urgently in need of help.
– Dunamis helpline: +234 (0) 803 314 4509.
– Women at risk International Foundation Helpline : + 234 809 210 0009
7. So much has been learnt. I do hope God’s healing balm restsagainstour hearts as we recover. Please guard your heart from the vices of the enemy to steal your faith.
Wisdom is profitable to direct. Let’s all lend a hand in assisting those around us who may be struggling but can’t speak up. See something, say something.
God bless you all.”
From her assertions in this statement above, we feel that there is indeed a need to reiterate a point she made that we have also made several times, especially since this ugly incident happened.
Dear women, PLEASE STOP PROTECTING AND COVERING FOR YOUR ABUSERS! Oh, that there was a way we could shout this even more loudly so that every woman’s ears tingle from it! You are better off alive and taunted for a while than to have your life cut short forever because you’re afraid of what people will say! Your life, mental, emotional, and psychological well-being are at stake and not theirs, so let them speak!
May God grant us the mental toughness we need to be brave for ourselves in terrible situations like this; Amen!
By: Dr. Sandra C. Duru