It’s important to see every problem as a steppingstone to our victory. We just need to pay attention and work on it. When we seek attention from our problems, we start losing focus on the things that matter most. I am what and who I am today because I realized on time that everything that happened to me had a huge spiritual significance and I knew that there was a purpose behind all the challenges I encountered in the journey of my life. And instead of throwing pity parties to attract sympathy from people, I turned my tears into fuel for more energy to live my purpose.
I was shown a very strong disrespect and I was called things like “no-hoper”, “pathetic runt”, “old woman”, “Mgbeke”, “prostitute”, “blackmailer”, “lesbian”, “begger”, “troublemaker”,- whatever names I was called, they were said to make me feel degraded, belittled, hated, isolated, rejected, misunderstood, humiliated, avoided, depressed, demeaned, sidelined, shamed, mocked, and disrespected. If anyone or GROUP of people are calling you one, two or more of these, it’s a deliberate attempt to undermine your self-respect and cause you to lose confidence in yourself or to make you have a nervous breakdown and completely become unsuccessful in life.
Instead of playing into their hands or allowing their wickedness, envy, jealousy get the better part of you, find the PURPOSE in that ugly situation and turn it into a greater achievement that will shock your detractors. Despite all their plans to derail me, disorganize me, make me lose focus with all their politically motivated and sponsored attacks, publications and plots, I kept maturing beautifully well with all the challenges, the numerous attacks, the hatred, setbacks, and I continued to use my platform for a greater purpose in my life and enriching the lives of others. In fact, I want to thank them for making me stronger, more intelligent, smarter and more successful.
Today, I make reference to those ugly publications wherever and whenever I am having motivational talk or counseling someone or GROUP of people who want to give up due to similar experiences, situations, issues, and challenges. Against all odds, I am living my purpose, doing excellently well and aiming higher achievements. The question is, did those ugly publications, lies, manipulations, hatred distractions stop me from being successful in life?
The honest answer is NO! Because I focused more on the purpose in the distractions and didn’t pay attention to the detractors whose aim was to stop me by all means not to live my purpose and not to be happy.
Remember that people who do these ugly things to you, do everything to put negative thoughts in your head. They socially ostracize you. They act like the victim. The interesting part about an underminer or an oppressor is that, although they’re victimizing you, they themselves often act like the victim.
They gossip you, plot so much evil to bring you down, they go as far as working tirelessly to influence others to treat you differently. Yes, If someone you always got along well with suddenly starts to give you the cold shoulder for seemingly no reason, this is one of the most concerning signs that you’re being undermined because this means that the undermining is working, at least with the person who is acting differently towards you.
It is imperative to take steps to guard against any additional undermining. Once you put that under control either by discussing with the person or you disconnect completely to save your sanity and move forward with your beautiful life and living your purpose.
They’re envious of your success and don’t ever want to see you happy or doing better than them, especially when you are not looking like or become like what they expected after all their evil missions, plans and evilness. An underminer is not happy when you succeed.
Now, the purpose in all the problems is, do not take your mental health for granted. Once they succeed in giving you mental distress, you are completely ruined. For mental health purposes, do remember that this is only one portion of your life and this, too, shall pass. It’s just something you have to get through and deal with. Rise above the drama and do not let the undercutting decrease your confidence. Find the purpose in the problem just like our coach Avril Bunton-Willams said in one of her daily motivational write-ups titled:
THE PURPOSE IN THE PROBLEM
“Everything that happens to you has a huge spiritual significance. There is a purpose behind every problem or challenge. We do not mature with age. We mature with the setbacks that we face in life. You don’t need to keep the “masterpiece” going every day, just keep putting the right oil on the canvas. Use your platform for a greater purpose in life which enriches the lives of others.”