Prof. Mgbeke’s Sunday Sermon: October 23, 2022.
Dear Woman, “Submission” To Your Husband Should Never Rob You Of Your Virtue!
My dearly beloved ones, how are you all doing today? It’s been a very tight and eventful week for me at my end, but God remains King over all, and I am forever grateful.
Something caught my attention during the week past, and I shared my thoughts on it as much as I could then. However, a pertinent question related to this matter dropped in my spirit over the night. It’s been so heavy ever since, and I feel this is a leading for me to share it with everyone here today, more especially the women.
My dear sisters, aunts, daughters, and mothers: What does it mean to be a “virtuous woman,” and does being virtuous prevent you from being submissive to your husband?
I ask these questions today because I’ve observed a rather unfortunate major misunderstanding of the scriptures that is causing so much needless pain, turmoil, and calamity in the lives of many women worldwide.
Being submissive to your husband should never hinder or stop you from being a resourceful woman who has and makes more than enough for her mouth alone and can ably support and fend for her family in times of financial crisis for her husband. THIS IS WHAT TRUE VIRTUE ENTAILS!
Virtue, for a female, is about how well she carries and comports herself, and does not allow her body to be touched, toyed with, or become an object of immoral sexual gratification for anyone. However, there is a lot more to being virtuous than just being morally upright, decent, and dignified.
Why did King Lemuel call the woman in Proverbs 31 “virtuous”? An understanding of that scripture will answer my questions above and also save a lot of women from avoidable misery in life!
While verse 10 to 11 buttresses my earlier point about a virtuous woman being a chaste and morally upright female, some very deeply interesting things about the true nature of a virtuous woman begins to unfold from the following verses.
“She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.” – Proverbs 31:13-16.
Oh, how glorious this is! She willingly works with her hands, and, after a dutiful evaluation of a property, she buys and plants a vineyard on it “with the fruits of her hands” and not her husband’s money. Why? Because she works, makes her money, is an excellent manager, and flourishes in all she does! These are the traits and what makes a woman virtuous – when you can be a “help suitable (meet)” indeed for your man in life.
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” – Genesis 2:18. Any life you live outside this primary purpose for which the Creator made you is a perversion and void of virtue. This, my dear sisters, is the hard but God’s truth!
Does it mean that all men will value and cherish such women when blessed with them? Of course, we all know how some men are sadly worse than the serpent that spawned them when it comes to this. However, does this excuse any woman from being what they were created to be? Absolutely no, it does not.
Now, consider how the woman’s husband in Proverbs is regarded and honored by all in the land because of his wife. “Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.” – Proverbs 31:23.
He sits in the place of honor – with the elders – in the land because his wife is a delightsome blessing, but even more importantly because she does not exalt herself above him due to her enterprise and riches.
What does this teach us today? It proves that you can be wealthy and industrious and still be your husband’s joy because you don’t compete with him or rub your success in his face at home. And, when you’re blessed with an equally wise, honorable, and God-fearing man, you are a prime example of what God’s mind regarding marriage is, and genuinely “blessed of the Lord” indeed!
Finally, being a submissive and virtuous wife or woman does not in any way mean that you should become a woman who only sits at home all day and has no work, business, or career that she’s pursuing and growing. That is not virtue. You are not virtuous – You are a LIABILITY, and no man wants this!
A submissive woman is one who never places herself above her man, no matter what she has or how wealthy she is, and never tries to make herself equal to him in any regard. This is true virtue.
A woman who depends solely on her man for everything in their home is far from being virtuous, and even that does not make her submissive either!
Never put yourself in a spot or condition where your life is contrary to the Creator’s original plan and purpose for you. “Submission” to your husband or man should never rob you of your “virtue” as a woman.
Ana eji uche eme ihe – Wisdom is profitable to direct!
May God fill our hearts with HIS wisdom to know what ought to be or not, and may HE bring only good people our way in life, especially at crucial points when life-changing decisions and calls are required, in the name of Jesus Christ; Amen!
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